Why I Say "With You" in My Emails


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This may seem like a small thing to share—maybe you haven’t even noticed it—but I recently started signing off my emails “with you.” It’s not a random choice that felt right; it was intentional.

Back in January, I was listening to a Carey Nieuwhof podcast (can’t recall the exact one), and his guest talked about how kids don’t want youth pastors just doing stuff “to them” or “for them”; they want someone who’s genuinely “with them.” That will preach. But then it hit me: when I started coaching, I was probably coaching more “for you” than “with you.” But over time, I have genuinely changed to "with you".

Why “with you”? Because, like you, I’m always learning, growing, and wrestling through all the Enneagram things. There is no report card saying I’ve graduated from my Enneagram journey. It becomes apparent I'm actually changed when I encounter circumstances and realize I show up differently or am aware of the feeling in my body that I am masking or performing.

Enneagram coaching isn’t about making you a “better” you—it’s about helping you live more… well, YOU. How you get there and the “good work” it takes is different for each type. Recently, I had a moment where I felt truly myself. It was like a weight lifted off my shoulders. For this Enneagram 3, it was a glimmer of feeling free of others’ opinion of me. But if you're a Type 8, that would not be your work at all.

That's why describing the practice and the payoffs of Enneagram coaching has been tricky because it’s different for everyone. The payoff of the “good work” for each type is unique: -

  • Type 1: patience
  • Type 2: self-respect
  • Type 3: authenticity
  • Type 4: inner calm
  • Type 5: trust
  • Type 6: courage
  • Type 7: groundedness
  • Type 8: magnanimity (it’s a beautiful word for 8’s!)
  • Type 9: vitality

This is not an overnight thing. It’s a journey for those who are ready to learn, grow, and embrace change.

If you’re ready to start, I would be honored to partner with you and hear your story by scheduling a call with me. And if you’ve been with me throughout these four years, thank you for being such incredible people who show up for this beautiful work. I'd love to hear about how you have seen your grown with coaching.

I’m so grateful to be on this journey with you all, not just as a coach, but as someone who is learning and growing…

...with you.

Linda Hannigan

BTH, ACC, CPLC, Life, Leadership & Enneagram Coach
Founder & Coach 9 Lumens

113 Cherry St #92768, Seattle, WA 98104-2205
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